The Link Between Trauma and Addictive Behaviors

By Maria Diaz, LMHC-D, LPC, EMDR Certified Therapist

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When people think about addiction, they often focus on the substances or behaviors themselves—alcohol, drugs, gambling, or even compulsive spending. But when you look closely at the stories beneath addictive patterns, a deeper theme often emerges: unresolved trauma. Understanding this connection is not only important for healing but also deeply empowering. It helps us shift the narrative from “What’s wrong with you?” to “What happened to you—and how can we support your healing?”

What Do We Mean By Trauma?

Trauma isn’t limited to catastrophic events. Of course, experiences like physical abuse, sexual assault, or life-threatening accidents are traumatic. But trauma can also come from less visible wounds—chronic emotional neglect, growing up in a chaotic environment, being criticized excessively, or witnessing violence. Trauma is not defined by the event itself, but by how it impacts a person’s nervous system, sense of safety, and self-belief.

Many people who struggle with addiction don’t initially identify their experiences as “trauma.” They might say things like “My childhood wasn’t that bad,” or “I just learned to deal with things on my own.” But the body remembers what the mind tries to forget.

How Trauma Shapes the Brain and Body

Trauma isn’t just a memory—it changes how the brain and body function. The parts of the brain responsible for survival, stress response, and emotional regulation become more sensitive. Over time, this can lead to:

• Hypervigilance (feeling constantly on edge)

• Difficulty regulating emotions

• Numbness or emotional shutdown

• Chronic anxiety or shame

• Disconnection from one’s body or feelings

This state—constantly trying to manage overwhelming internal experiences—creates a perfect storm for addictive behaviors. Substances or compulsive actions can feel like relief, even if temporary.

Addiction as a Coping Strategy

One of the most compassionate and realistic ways to understand addiction is this: addiction is often an attempt to self-soothe when healthier tools were never modeled or accessible.

For someone with trauma, alcohol may quiet intrusive thoughts. Drugs may numb pain or provide a sense of control. Food may offer comfort. Gambling or shopping may provide a rush that interrupts emotional emptiness. Even work addiction or perfectionism can become ways to avoid feelings that feel too heavy to face.

This does not mean addiction is someone’s “fault.” It means the behavior developed in response to real suffering that went unaddressed.

Why Trauma Survivors Are More Vulnerable to Addiction

The connection between trauma and addiction is well-documented. People who have experienced trauma—especially in childhood—are significantly more likely to develop substance use disorders. Some reasons include:

• Difficulty trusting others, making it harder to reach out for help

• Unresolved emotional pain, which creates a need for escape

• Learned patterns, especially when addiction was present in the household

• Long-term changes to the stress response system

• A belief that they must cope alone, often learned early in life

When the nervous system is overwhelmed, people naturally seek something—anything—that offers relief.

Addictive Behaviors Offer Relief—But at a Cost

In the short term, addictive behaviors can actually work. They ease pain, numb distress, or help someone feel something when they’re otherwise disconnected. But over time, the temporary relief gives way to consequences, shame, and increased emotional distress. This creates a painful cycle that trauma survivors often blame on themselves, even though the roots are far deeper.

Healing Requires Addressing Both Trauma and Addiction

Research and lived experience show that people heal most effectively when trauma and addiction are addressed together. Treating addiction while ignoring trauma may lead to relapse; treating trauma without stabilizing addictive patterns can overwhelm the system.

A trauma-informed approach to addiction focuses on:

• Safety first—emotionally and physically

• Rebuilding regulation skills to help the nervous system settle

• Understanding triggers without judgment

• Developing healthy coping strategies

• Addressing the underlying wounds, not just the behaviors

• Creating a connection, which is essential for long-term recovery

Healing is not a linear process, and it’s not about perfection. It’s about learning new ways to relate to emotions, memories, and stress.

Compassion Over Judgment

One of the most powerful shifts in understanding trauma-related addiction is recognizing that people don’t choose addiction—they choose relief. They choose comfort. They choose to escape from pain that once felt unbearable.

When we replace judgment with compassion, we open the door to healing. Every person using an addictive behavior has a story, and often, that story includes moments of profound hurt.

There Is Hope—and Healing Is Possible

The link between trauma and addiction does not mean someone is broken or beyond help. In fact, it’s the opposite: once we understand the connection, people often feel a sense of clarity and self-understanding they never had before.

With the right support—trauma-informed therapy, community, healthy coping skills, and self-compassion—people can heal both wounds and behaviors. They can learn to feel safe again, build trust, and reconnect with themselves in ways that once felt impossible.

Healing is not about erasing the past. It’s about learning that your past doesn’t have to define your present or your future. And for many, that realization is the start of true recovery.

About the Author

Maria Diaz is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in NY, NJ, and CT. She's certified in EMDR and trained in trauma-focused modalities. She is focused on healing and providing compassionate treatment to best support clients looking to feel better.

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